Body Image

THERE IS NO PERFECT

Letting go of body hate is far from possible if we are continuously convinced that if we try hard enough, we could make our imperfections disappear. We need to break free from the false idea that perfection actually exists and accept that everybody has an imperfection about them. We buy into the myth that skin creams and diet pills can give us a perfect body because it is everywhere; ads on the internet, pictures in magazines, movies on the big screens, protein supplement labels – the perfect body is plastered all around us. The perfect body is a hypothetical idea, it is dreamed up and then brought to life but don’t be fooled. All media images and messages are constructions, they are not reflections of reality and they have been carefully crafted with the intent to send a very specific message. Perfection is an illusion that seems nice on the surface but it just is not reality. Anyone who goes through life expecting perfection from their body or anything else is bound to be disappointed.

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GET OUT A LITTLE

The problem with negative body thoughts is that they distract you from living in the now and experiencing life because you are so focused on the flaws you think you have. You are constantly thinking about what your body should look like or how it used to look like. Body hate postpones life until you can ‘fix’ your body and it steals enjoyment from your everyday life. If you practice living in the moment, it can keep those negative thoughts at bay. Sit down and make a list of everything you want to do but have been putting off because you think or feel that you don’t have the right body for it. Do things like go to the beach, wear shorts, do yoga, try speed dating, wear a sexy red dress with some red lipstick; go out there and live.

Make a list of goals that you have been afraid to do because you lack confidence and try to do at least one thing a month, see how it feels then do it again. Doing this might just be the boost that you need.

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PERFECTIONISM

PERFECTIONISM is often to blame when we get stuck in waiting to pursue our dreams until we have the ‘right’ body and it locks us in a trap where everything might happen someday when conditions are just right but that perfect someday never seems to arrive. In this case, the perfectionist attitude keeps us from living our lives because we do not feel that our body type is the right one. This perfectionist attitude makes judgements and jumps to extremes. Perfectionism says ‘I am not everything i want to be, so therefore i am nothing’, it basically implies you are worthless. Life is not worth living to the fullest if you can not do it with the perfect skin, perfect hair or perfect thighs. It is time to put the brakes on the perfectionism mindset; there is a tremendous difference between taking steps to improve certain aspects of ourselves and putting our life completely on hold until we reach our goals. Do not hide behind the fear of being imperfect, we are all imperfect in some way and some even have the same imperfections as you do. Live a little and don’t hold back.

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Body Image Myths

Our culture is infused with myths about what we should expect from our bodies and how we should feel about them. Most of these myths stem from the unrealistic standards portrayed by the media and riddled in our self esteem as we grow up. It is time we recognise and dispel the false ideas we have about body image so that we can make way for a positive mindset. Rejecting your body is rejecting a part of yourself and rejection can lead to negative emotions like shame or guilt. Body hate does not make imperfections go away, it only serves to make your imperfections seem more important than everything else. It stops you from living your life. If you don’t learn to love and accept your body as it is right now then you probably won’t love it even when your imperfections suddenly go away. Body hate is is a learned thinking pattern, so even if your imperfections were gone, if you still have the mindset of body hate, then you would still have feelings of hate towards yourself.

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When i wake up

So today i will talk about what i do when i wake up in the morning. I have many little insecurities which i think is normal, especially for girls my age. Insecurities can start at a very young age or only hit you when you are in your adult years but it’s the same battle many of us are fighting.

When i wake up in the morning, if i am not completely naked, i will undress myself and stand in front of the mirror for a few minutes looking at every inch of my body. I try to find what’s right but mostly what’s wrong with my body; i search for cellulite on my legs, stretch marks on my bum, my chubby belly. I know i am not fat but when i look at myself, completely naked, all i can see is fat. My head goes on and on saying fat, imperfect, ugly which makes me want to break down, it is an ongoing battle i will always be fighting and the worst thing is i know that it is a losing battle. Not many people know about my insecurities but i thought I would share this piece with you today; i have much more to share, so stay in touch.

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Don’t Pass It On

We are often fooled to think that when we hate our bodies that it only affects ourselves but the truth is we hurt those around us as well. This goes out to all the beautiful mothers out there

It is natural for our little ones to imitate the ones they look up to, they learn by example and pick up on our little idiosyncrasies. They can learn about body image through our behaviour toward our own bodies – if they see you go on diet after diet or watch you criticise your body every time. When you are tempted to wallow in body hate, think for a minute about how you want your kids to feel about their bodies. As a mother, i am sure you would only want them to feel beautiful, confident, capable and strong which is another reason for you to want to feel the same way about yourself.

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Where do these thoughts come from?

Negative body thoughts can come from nowhere, it can grow from smaller issues that are not necessarily linked to your body. Next time you find yourself hating on your body, stop and think about what happened around the time you started feeling the sudden hate towards your body.

Did you argue with your mom?

Are the pressures from school or work getting to you?

Did your partner make a comment that bothers you?

Did your friends make comments that bothers you?

Chances are, these negative emotions towards your body were triggered by other negative emotions. Words are very powerful and that is something people struggle to understand. People may say things with no realisation that it cuts deeper than paper. It is not only words but the actions of others that can start making us feel insecure or start overthinking.

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