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Keys to loving your body

1. Do not starve yourself

– Starving your body is not loving it. Skipping meals and crash dieting isn’t healthy for you; physically or mentally. If you want to love your body, give it the energy it needs not only to survive but also to thrive. This means eating enough to support your lifestyle. If you are active then eat enough to support that activity. How much you need to eat will vary based on your body size, body type and activity level. More importantly, listen to your body. If you are constantly hungry, thinking about food or binge eating then you are probably not eating enough. Moderation is fine, but restriction is not healthy.

2. Choose higher quality food

In general, go for the quality stuff. Focus on eating food in a more natural state. Avoid too much processed food or food with lots of additives. Keep it simple, keep it fresh and maybe buy from the local farmers market who raise quality food the old fashioned way. Try and aim for food with plenty of nutrients to support your body and mind. However, do not get too rigid. Enjoy a night out at a restaurant now and then without worrying about the exact ingredients.

3. Move your body in a way that brings you joy

Exercise should never be torture or used as punishment to make up for eating the wrong food or too much food. Exercise is about feeling strong, healthy, vibrant and moving your body in a way you enjoy. Being active is healthy, but there is such a thing as over doing it, especially if you are exhausted or not eating well. Walking can sometimes be the most healing exercise until you give your body enough sleep and quality food to support more vigorous activity. Choose an activity that makes you feel positive about yourself and your body. This may be weight lifting, yoga, swimming or dancing; the choices are endless.

4. Get plenty of sleep

Your body needs to rest to recover and rebuild. Most people feel best on at least 7 to 9 hours of sleep every night. If you are regularly getting less than this, your body will suffer for it and will generally be a lot harder to work with. If you want to feel rested, energised and youthful; a good night’s sleep is a must. Prioritise sleep and also take naps if needed.

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Society’s Plan

It is easy to get out of touch with your body’s true needs when you are constantly pushed to follow the latest ‘plan’ that tells you how to eat, how to move, even how to breathe. Plans always focus on the latest fads and buzz words and rarely take into consideration whether or not something actually works for your body and in your life. You are just supposed to follow the plan and if it does not work then it means you are not doing it right.

First things first: FORGET THE PLAN

Start viewing any diet, exercise or lifestyle recommendations as a guideline, a starting place that you can adjust as needed. Most of all pay attention to how your body responds and make adjustments as needed.

You should start taking action! Stop skipping meals, eat a balanced meal or snack when hungry instead. Buy more fresh fruits to snack on. Cut off the television at 10PM so that you can get enough sleep. These are the small changes you can make today to start taking care of your body.


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How to Love Your Body

Love is more than just a feeling. While it is important to have positive feelings towards your body, it is even better to take it a step further and put those feelings into action. If you have a hard time “feeling the love” for your body, taking steps towards acting in a way that is loving and respectful towards your body can help you get there. When you start taking care of yourself, both physically and emotionally, it gets easier to start appreciating your body on a new level.

One of the keys to a healthy relationship is good listening skills. When it comes to having a healthy relationship with your body, listening is top priority. You need to be tuned into your body’s feedback if you want to take care of it. Paying attention to your body’s needs and how it responds, you also learn to cooperate with your body and stop viewing it as the enemy who is out to get you. Most of us have been battling our bodies for as long as we can remember. It’s time to call a truce and let your body bring some valuable information to the table. You might be surprised at what it has to say.


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The Filter in our Minds

Our minds have a filter but sometimes that filter does not work so well and it filters out all the good stuff and it lets all the bad stuff run loose. Body hate often stems from not seeing the bigger picture. We see things through a negative filter that blocks out the positive aspects of a situation. When that happens, all the negative stuff feels ten times worse because there is no positive point of view to balance it out. We only notice our flaws, our weak points and shortcomings but we do not see the good. Any positive aspects of ourselves are discounted.

  • “Who cares if i got the promotion, someone had to fill the spot. It does not mean i am special or good at my job and it does not change the fact that i look old and dress ugly”
  • “He said i look pretty today but he probably just said it because he realised that i was moody, he did not mean it”

It might seem silly to some but these thoughts occur on a daily basis and have negative effects on self esteem. A negative thought filter means that what we think about ourselves and what we assume others think of us is not necessarily realistic. It is usually charged with negative emotion and a history of body hate or self hate. However, we can change these filters, with practice you can learn to assess your body and situations from a balanced perspective that looks at both sides of the issue, instead of just assuming the worst; the positive can also outweigh the negative.


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World Wide Web of Body Hate

  • Put people behind the safety of a computer screen and all of a sudden, they feel free to let loose every cruel and insensitive remark imaginable – especially in the case of appearance. Body hate is everywhere on the web; all over forums, blogs and social media sites. There are thousands of groups online that foster body obsession. There are forums devoted to acne cures, plastic surgery, fad diets, extreme exercise and about any other body related topic. All of them encourage commiserating over our flaws and going down endless rabbit holes trying to ‘fix’ our bodies. The truth is, these groups only serve to trigger our insecurities and make our problems seem bigger than they really are. They also show us that body hate is normal and acceptable. This is not a problem for everyone but it is important to think about how our online relationships are affecting our lives.
  • Ask yourself:
    • Do you feel better or worse after visiting sites or groups that frequently discuss body issues, appearance, dieting or exercise?
      Do you come away feeling more at peace or more anxious about the way you look?
  • Not all web sites foster body hate, some encourage positive body image but be sure you know which ones you get involved in. It can make a difference in banishing ugly body thoughts.
  • However in my experience social media such as facebook and instagram might be the biggest body hate influencers to date, as people are constantly leaving negative comments, allowing us to feel vulnerable and feel ugly or ashamed of what we look like. It is easy to say ‘oh just ignore the comments’ or ‘you should not care what others say’ but in reality it hits you hard therefore it is important to stand together and support each other.
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    Stop Ugly Body Talk

    Once those ugly body thoughts are in our heads, we tend to talk about them either to ourselves, friends or family, we also do not realise how much body bashing ourselves can effect us when talking about it but it does. Body hate is usually perceived as normal but it does not have to be. Sometimes we relish in a good body bashing session with our friends; it is good to let it out with people you feel close to. However, we do not even realise how much body hate has become the centre of attention of our conversations. Point is, we all want to relate to one another and body hate is a subject most of us have personal experience with. Ugly body talk is not necessarily the best way to go about it, start observing the conversations you have with your friends or family and see how much you really talk about your appearance in a negative way. It might not seem so negative at first, maybe you say it jokingly but we both know it touches a soft spot.

    Your imperfections are not the sum of who you are but constantly talking about your flaws gives them more power than they deserve. However an honest discussion about the alternatives to body hate can take the conversation in a much more meaningful and positive direction.


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    Detecting Ugly Body Thoughts

    You should simply recognise when you are experiencing ugly body thoughts; tune into what you say to yourself about your body and think about what triggers those negative body thoughts. When you encounter the ugly body thoughts, you have to fight back. Body hate is often fuelled by emotional assumptions and distorted thinking. You have to unravel this web of thinking by questioning whether these thoughts are legitimate. Ask yourself:

    Does this thought represent reality?

    Am I thinking in extremes or blowing something out of proportion?

    Is there another way to look at this?

    Could I do something to improve the way I feel right now?

    Here is an example of how to encounter those ugly body thoughts –

    Ugly Thought

    ‘I can’t stand looking at myself today, look at that muffin top! I feel gross!

    Look at it this way instead

    ‘Maybe I am not thrilled with the way my stomach looks right now. I guess it does not help that I am wearing low cut pants that do not sit right on my body. Besides, even if my stomach does not look the way I want it to, that does not make me gross – it just means I am a person with imperfections just like others. However I do have nice legs and maybe I will wear that dress that shows off my legs instead.’