A common symptom of body hate is constant comparison. We are constantly comparing ourselves to the looks of others; to those on social media, in magazines, even when we are walking to the store. Critical thoughts about your own appearance tend to spread to how you think about others as well. If you are in the habit of scrutinising every little flaw on your own body, it’s not much of a leap to start doing the same to those around you too.
Comparing is competing! Someone has to win and someone has to lose. “She may have better hair, but you have better thighs.” Comparing and judging are just different ways of keeping your own body hate alive and kicking. It just perpetuates the cycle of determining your self worth and the worth of others by measuring imperfections and making sweeping judgements.
Now that you are getting to know yourself as a complete package, it is time to start doing the same towards others. We are all who we are, a complete and unique package with different traits and attributes. We have different strengths and weaknesses, different pasts and different futures. Comparing means that you are judging at a surface level and not looking at the big picture, instead of valuing yourself and others as complete people. One person’s unique beauty does not cancel out another person’s unique beauty. We all have our own beauty, we just have to find it and embrace it.
It might be difficult at first but once we start embracing how beautiful we are and not compare any of our unique features to others, the self love will become stronger.